5 Quick Tips to Build Better Work Relationships

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5 Quick Tips to Build Better Work Relationships

Post  sleepyme123 on Thu May 17, 2012 11:14 am

Is there someone at work you don’t get along with and yet need to influence? And, yes, you tend to avoid them because you just don’t see eye to eye? It could be a peer, a boss, a direct report. Here’s the best advice I have seen recently.

The advice is simple, “Take The Other To Lunch”. Here are 5 Tips to start to turn the corner on the difficult relationship.

1. Clarify Your Objective. What’s your goal? The goal here is to simply build a more trusting relationship with the other person. Once the mutual trust is established, it is more possible to work on the areas where you want to influence the person.

2. What’s the best way to approach them? The bad news is that they are probably not oblivious to the fact that you are not on great terms. So just be honest. Ask them to see if they would have lunch with you as you’d like to get to know them better.

3. What If They Say No? They may be a bit suspicious. After all, everyone wants to have lunch with friends. And it may be just the excuse you may be looking for to retreat back to your office cave to nurse the ego. But you can prevail. Persist. Ask if there is a better time to connect, perhaps for coffee.

4. What Do We Talk About? Understandably when we perceive that we have nothing in common with the other person, we are anxious to spend an hour with them. One of my most miserable mentoring experiences was when I was invited to a 1 on 1 mentoring lunch with my boss’s boss early in my career. We went to a noisy restaurant (thankfully I thought at the time because we certainly didn’t have much to say to each other). But now I know better! You need to take 100% accountability yourself, to be curious about the other person. Ask questions about their background, their interests, what’s made them successful. You don’t need to get into your agenda or convince them you’re right. Your goal is to simply build a more trusting relationship with the other. See them as people instead of “the other.” Also take the time to share about yourself and your background. Start to look for similarities rather than differences.

5. What Happens Next? This is not an easy process and it takes time, but it does work, and it takes patience.

The above is not rocket science but how often do we practice it? Often we let our emotional feelings about “the other” (and the beliefs that we are right and they are wrong) get in the way of our goals and progress.

So pick one person you will take to the lunch experiment and do comment on how this worked for you.
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